STAY AT HOME MOM 101

Annie Lee ‘Spin Cycle’

Top Ten Do’s and Don’ts in no particular order….

1. Unless you’re up and dressed for the day, try not to let your man come home seeing you in the same clothes, especially your night-clothes! I’m not saying beat your face and get fly. But at least put on a fresh shirt (spit-up and cooking stains are not sexy lol). Even if you haven’t had a chance to shower yet, make your stress look sexy. Easy fix…buy cute lounge wear, like comfy dresses, or if you have sweat pants opt for a fitted shirt or tank top. Try Gap Body.

2. Throw on a pair of heels/wedges and style your hair at least once a week when the family goes out. Not only will it be refreshing to your mans eyes, but it’ll help you feel good as well.

3. Cook a meal AT LEAST twice a week. Casserole dishes are simple and delicious if you’re pressed for time or the baby is hanging on your leg. Ex. A can of soup(like cream of mushroom/chicken), rice, chicken, and veggies. Or Veggies (zucchini/tomato/spinach), pasta and cheese. My favorite go to is baked chicken with a side and salad, because its prep and go.

4. Keep your toes right and lips moisturized! Just do it! If you don’t have the money or time to get a pedi do it yourself! 2min pedi!

Annie Lee ‘Full Set or Fill’

5. Make time for yourself. I can not stress this enough. If not a whole day, at least 2 or 3 hrs once or twice a week. How you feel personally is vital when taking care of the family.

6. Nurture your relationship FIRST.  If mommy and daddy are good, baby will inevitably be too. It’s so easy to put the kids first and neglect your partners needs, but trust me, children benefit from the love  and strong bond between their parents.

Annie Lee ‘Love Song’

7. Deep clean the house once a week with your significant other, that way the only thing you’ll have to do  is put baby’s stuff away toward the end of the day. If you have older children 3 and up they should be able to pick up after themselves.

8. If you’re not too tired try waking up at least 1 hour before everyone else. This gives you some uninterrupted “me time” to sip some tea or coffee, sort some laundry, work out and shower.

9. Don’t try and be like the other moms on the block by comparing your day/schedule/routine or lack there of to their’s. Do what works for you and your family.

10. Eat clean to stay energized and keep your body and mind active! If you have things to do around the house, strap that baby on and get to it! Also stimulate your brain with a good book. Reading baby books and watching ‘Yo Gabba Gabba’ can take a toll on you.

Did we leave anything out?? We wanna hear from you!

Annie Lee ‘Steeping and Soaking’

LIQUID GOLD: Reap the Benefits of Your Breastmilk!

Breastmilk is one of Gods greatest gifts. He made us perfectly and with no mistakes! Not only does it provide the perfect nourishment for our babies, but it also has MANY alternative uses that benefit Mommy as well. When it was too early to bath my son, I’d wipe him down with expressed milk every other day, It works better than any over the counter decongestion meds, and I even use it to clean my face!  Take a peek.

Medicinal

For Babies Only

    1. Get Rid of Diaper Rash: Breastmilk can help heal diaper rash, so squirt some on, allow it to dry in the air, and watch the rash disappear.
    2. Prevent Diaper Rash: If your little one is prone to diaper rash, go ahead and put breastmilk on her diaper area daily as a preventative measure.
    3. Clear Up Baby Acne and Eczema: Massage breastmilk onto your baby’s face to clear up baby acne.
    4. Cradle Cap: Conventional mama wisdom says to massage breastmilk onto baby’s scalp to get rid of cradle cap.
    5. Donate It: If you have breastmilk in abundant supply, consider donating your milk, either to a friend or acquaintance or through a milk bank

For Everyone

“Madonna and Child Project ” by Kate Hansen

    1. Pain Relief: The endorphins in breastmilk can actually reduce pain felt by your child, so nurse away anytime your little one gets hurt.2
    2. Ear InfectionsDr. Mercola says that there is a simple solution for childhood ear infections: just “put a few drops of breast milk in the ear canal every few hours. This usually works to clear up the infection within 24-48 hours and is far safer, less expensive and a better solution than putting the child on antibiotics. If the mother is not breastfeeding, it is likely she knows someone who is. All that is required for the treatment is about one half ounce of breast milk . . . .” Mothering suggests following the breastmilk with “warm (not hot) olive oil and garlic, or bottled garlic mullein oil.”
    3. Prevent Childhood Illnesses: Because your baby’s immune system is not mature, theantibodies present in breastmilk can help protect him against a variety of childhood illnesses, including “ear infections, upper and lower respiratory ailments, allergies, intestinal disorders, colds, viruses, staph, strep and e coli infections, diabetes, juvenile rheumatoid arthritis, many childhood cancers, meningitis, pneumonia, urinary tract infections, salmonella, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome(SIDS),” asthma, and more.3
    4. Chicken Pox: Relieve the itch and heal any sores from chicken pox.
    5. Poison Ivy/Oak/Sumac: Try dabbing at the itchy spots with a cotton ball soaked in breastmilk.
    6. Prevent Adult Illnesses: Research has also shown that breastfeeding can help give “lifetime protection from Crohn’s Disease, ulcerative colitis, some lymphomas, insulin dependent diabetes, . . . breast and ovarian cancer[,]” osteoporosis, multiple sclerosis, and others.4
    7. Prevent Illnesses in the Breastfeeding Mother: Breastfeeding reduces the nursing mother’s risk of breast, endometrial, and ovarian cancer, protects mothers against anemia, and can stabilize the progress of endometriosis.5
    8. Cuts and Scrapes: Breastmilk is actually a natural antiseptic, and it can be used to soothe and promote healing of cuts and scrapes.
    9. Insect Bites and Stings: The antiseptic and antibacterial properties of breastmilk can reduce itching and promote healing of insect bites and stings.
    10. Clogged Tear Ducts: Tons of anecdotal evidence (that is, motherly wisdom) has it that breastmilk can help unclog clogged/blocked tear ducts. Science of Mom took a look at some of the studies behind this cure, and found that breastmilk is indeed safe – and potentially healing – for clogged tear ducts.
    11. Conjunctivitis/Stys: While there have been no studies (to my knowledge) that prove whether breastmilk can help get rid of conjunctivitis or stys, many breastfeeding mothers have found it helpful. And from the research on clogged tear ducts, it may follow that breastmilk – especially colostrum – could be beneficial.
    12. Sleep Aid for Baby/ChildNucleotides in breastmilk actually help babies go to sleep.
    13. Tranquilizer for Mom: Hormones released in mamas while breastfeeding decrease blood pressure and act to calm and soothe mothers, helping them sleep.6
    14. Congestion in Infants/Children: Breastmilk’s antimicrobial properties can also help babies and children when you squirt it into little noses.
    15. Neti Pot (Congestion in Older Children/Adults): For congestion in adults, try putting breastmilk in a neti pot to flush your nasal passages. If you don’t have a neti pot, just put a few drops of expressed milk in the nose like you would saline.
    16. Sore Throat: Gargle with breastmilk to help fight off a sore throat.
    17. Cold/Flu: Boost your body’s immune system and stay hydrated with breastmilk.

      “Madonna and Child Project ” by Kate Hansen

    18. Heal Sore NipplesResearch has actually proven that rubbing breastmilk on sore, cracked nipples leads to shorter healing times than using lanolin.
    19. Cure Cancer: Scientists have found that “[a] substance found in breast milk can killcancer cells.” Patients have been drinking breastmilk to treat their cancer with successful results.
    20. Cough in Infants/Children: Little ones with a cough need to stay hydrated – give them fluids and environmental-specific antibodies by nursing or expressing breastmilk.
    21. Birth Control: “Lactational amenorrhea is the natural postnatal infertility that occurs when a woman is amenorrheic and fully breastfeeding.” In other words, exclusive breastfeeding can help with child spacing.7
    22. Fever in Infants/Children: For a child with a fever, you want to keep him hydrated. Let him nurse or drink expressed breastmilk – it will quench thirst and provide antibodies.
    23. Cold Sores and Fever Blisters: Pat a cold sore or fever blister with a cotton ball soaked in breastmilk to help promote healing and relieve pain.
    24. BurnsMothering shares that a burn treated with a mixture of breastmilk and smashed up blueberries will heal more quickly.
    25. Infected Wounds: Apply breastmilk to the infected area to take advantage of its antiseptic properties.
    26. Boost Your Immune SystemAntibodies in breastmilk are environment-specific, so drinking breastmilk from a mother in close proximity can help boost an ill person’s – such as a chemo or organ transplant patient’s – immune system.
    27. Skin Rashes and Contact DermatitisBreastmilk’s antimicrobial and antiseptic properties can be used to help heal and relieve pain and itchiness of rashes and contact dermatitis.
    28. Sunburn: Gently pat expressed breastmilk onto a sunburn to help ease pain and heal the skin.
    29. Wound Cleaning: If you are out and about and someone gets hurt, use breastmilk to clean out the wound if you do not have access to another cleansing agent.
    30. Warts: According to Mothering, put “a breastmilk-saturated cotton ball on the wart for a few minutes twice a day. Continue for several days until the wart dries up.”

Cosmetic and Practical Uses

    1. Clear Up Teen/Adult Acne: Use a mixture of breastmilk and coconut oil on a cotton ball to help clear up acne in teens and adults.8
    2. Contact Lens Solution: Did you get something on your contact, but you don’t have saline solution handy? Clean it with some expressed breastmilk!
    3. Soap: “Milk is touted as an ideal ingredient for skin care products because it contains essential proteins, amino acids, and vitamin A, which nourishes skin. Milk is also rich in lactic acid, which cleanses and softens.” Check out two recipes for breastmilk soap and one Etsy shop that sells breastmilk soap.
    4. Make-up Removal: Use breastmilk on a cotton ball or pad to remove make-up and soften skin.
    5. Red or Puffy Eyes: If you don’t have cucumber slices for your puffy eyes, saturate two cotton balls with cold breastmilk.
    6. Moisten Chapped Lips: If you run out of lip balm and need instant relief, rub some breastmilk on your lips.
    7. Deodorant: One of my readers shares that she uses breastmilk as deodorant. Just rub some milk on your clean underarms and let dry.
    8. Lotion: One resourceful mama has published a recipe for a homemade breastmilk, oats, and honey lotion.

For Consumption

    1. Ice Cream: Many kids say thatbreastmilk tastes like melted ice cream, so making ice cream out of breastmilk only make sense.
    2. Cupcakes: Melodie from Breastfeeding Moms Unite actually made and ate cupcakes made with breastmilk. She kind of rocks.
    3. Popsicles: Either freeze plain old breastmilk into those little plastic popsicle forms, or jazz it up with some green smoothie add-ins. Let teething toddlers have healthy, cold relief.
    4. Mesh Feeder: If you don’t have popsicle molds, you can also freeze breastmilk into ice cube trays, then put some in a mesh feeder for teething toddlers.
    5. Baby Food: If you are making your little one fresh baby food, add some breastmilk to the mix!
    6. CheeseChef Daniel Angerer offers a breastmilk cheese recipe, if you have some milk to spare.
    7. Coffee Creamer: It’s milk. It’s sweet. It’s sweet milk for your coffee!
    8. Butter: I really want to try this easy recipe.
    9. Yogurt: Mmm yogurt! Here’s a recipe for yogurt made from breastmilk.
    10. Sherbet: What a great way to help a little one with a fever or a sore throat – sherbet made from mama milk!
    11. Bread: Create your own breastmilk bread starter with this recipe.
    12. Soup: Mothers can replace cow milk with breastmilk in cream soups. This mama tried it with Cream of Carrot soup and proclaimed it “not bad.”
    13. Anything that Calls for Milk: You can use breastmilk in just about any recipe that calls for milk; this site has recipes for everything from macaroni and cheese to french toast.

For Everything Else

  1. Necklaces: Memorialize your nursing years into a necklace. Here is one where the milk has been made into a plastic-like substance by solidifying the casein contentHollyday Designs makes beautiful necklaces with “milk beads” in different shapes.
  2. Sexual Lubricant: Express breastmilk and use it as you would any lubricant.

FRIENDSHIP ETIQUETTE

It has come to our attention that not everyone knows how to maintain friends thru thick and thin. Friendship is very important and very necessary among black women. Being able to trust and show love towards another black women is vital in order to build stronger communities!  Your friendships are a reflection of YOU, and not being able to maintain at least a few close ones says a lot about your character. I’m so tired of hearing “I can’t be friends with other females”. Grow up and take responsibility for YOUR actions! It can’t be everyone else ALL the time.  It’s really quite simple if you follow these rules with your closest girlfriends. Peace and LOVE!

1-Honesty

A true friend is always honest no matter what.

It is your duty to tell the truth, even when you know that the truth may hurt and possibly even cost you your friendship (which it won’t if you follow the other 9 rules below).

2-Reliability

A true friend is someone you can rely on.

When you make a promise you will always honor it, and when you know you won’t be able to stick to your promise it’s best to be honest and tell your friend that you can’t keep to the promise.

If you say that you’ll do something or be somewhere at a certain date and time, then be there no matter what.

3-Respect

A true friend respects time, property and beliefs, choices and changes.

  • Time is respected by not wasting it. Be punctual for appointments and let your friend know if you’ll be late or can’t make it at all.
  • Property is respected by not damaging it. Treat other people’s belongings with care and love.
  • Beliefs are respected by not judging. If you know that your friend has certain beliefs and morals, respect them, even if you don’t agree with them.

4- Don’t disappear as soon as you get a new boy toy

There is nothing more annoying than the friend who gets a new boyfriend, and then ditches her friend’s. Only to come crawling back after they have separated. The repeat…

Don’t cancel your plans with your friend or let your friend down just because you want to be with someone you’re interested in.

If the guy or girl you are interested in is really special to you, you can always ask your friend first and they’ll likely understand. But a true friend doesn’t drop you to be with someone else.

5-Selfless

Don’t think about yourself all the time. And don’t do something just for financial or material gain.

6-Loyalty

A true friend you will stand up for you when you need it. Also when you don’t ask them to.

A true friend is not for sale and will never do anything that will compromise your success or happiness.

7-Patience

A true friend will be patient with you. They are understanding when things need time to change or get better and won’t judge you even when you make the same mistake over and over. As long as you’re making the effort to get better.

8- Laugh Together Cry Together

A true friend is not a fair-weather friend. They are there for  you in good times and in bad times. A true friend also shares their own success with you when they achieve it.

9-Constructive Criticism

A true friend is not scared to tell you what you’re doing wrong . They’re not scared to seriously intervene if they see that something is seriously bad for you or if you’re going down the wrong path. But they always support their criticism with advice that can help you improve.

Don’t just say “You’re going to go bankrupt with your new business plan”. Tell them why you think their new business plan will fail. E.g. “You’re putting all your money into something that is not real, or there is an expiry date on the products you’re buying and I don’t think you’ll be able to sell even 10% of what you’re buying”.

10- Forgiveness

A true friend has the ability to forgive. We all make mistakes at times. We may even break one or more of these golden rules of being a true friend, but if you realize that you messed up and you really show that you’re sorry and try to make things right, a true friend will be able to forgive you.


TOP 10 TIPS FOR NATURAL HAIR CARE

  1. CONDITIONER IS YOUR BEST FRIEND! CHOOSE ONE THAT MAKES YOUR HAIR SOFT AND PLIABLE. IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE SUPER EXPENSIVE, YOU JUST NEED TO LIKE THE WAY IT MAKES YOUR HAIR FEEL, THUS MAKING IT EASIER FOR YOU TO DEAL WITH. MY FAVORITE AT THE MOMENT IS THIS ONE.
  2. DETANGLE NO MORE THEN ONCE A WEEK, IF THAT. TOO MUCH DETANGLING WILL LEAD TO BREAKAGE, THERE FOR STUNTING HAIR GROWTH.
  3. DITCH SHAMPOO. IT’S SO DRYING, AND WE NEED TO KEEP ALL THE MOISTURE WE CAN. SIMPLY USE YOUR FAVORITE CONDITIONER AS YOU WOULD YOUR SHAMPOO. IF YOU HAVE PRODUCT BUILD UP, USE A CLARIFYING SHAMPOO OR APPLE VINIGAR RINSE ONCE A MONTH. I CAN ADMIT I WAS A BUBBLE ADDICT, BUT SINCE GOING ‘THE NO-POO’ ROUTE MY HAIR HAS GROWN AND MAINTAINED ITS LENGTH.
  4. LIMIT HEAT TO ONCE OR TWICE A MONTH. TOO MUCH HEAT WILL DAMAGE YOUR CURL PATTERN AND EVENTUALLY CAUSE YOU TO HAVE STRAIGHT SPOTS AND OR ENDS.
  5. CHOOSE A GO TO (WHAT I LIKE TO CALL 2 FOR 1)PROTECTIVE STYLE, FOR EXAMPLE TWIST FOR 1WEEK, TAKE DOWN TWIST AND WEAR  YOUR FRO FOR ANOTHER WEEK.
  6. PROTECT YOUR HAIR AT NIGHT. EITHER WITH A SATIN BONNET, OR SILK OR SATIN PILLOW CASE. THE FRICTION FROM COTTON CAN CAUSE THINNING, AND BREAKAGE.
  7. DO NOT OIL YOUR SCALP! PUT OIL ON YOUR ENDS. YOUR SCALP NEEDS TO BREATH!!
  8. USE AN OLD T-SHIRT TO DRY YOUR HAIR INSTEAD OF A TOWEL. THE TEXTURE CAUSES FRIZZ!
  9. WHEN DRYING YOUR HAIR, DO NOT VIGOROUSLY SHAKE YOUR HAIR ABOUT. THIS CAUSES FRIZZ AS WELL! SIMPLY MOVE THE SHIRT IN A DOWNWARD MOTION AS YOU GENTLY RING THE WATER OUT. I ACTUALLY PULL THE SHIRT OVER MY HEAD AS IF IM GOING TO PUT IT ON, THEN BEND DOWN BRINGING THE NECK OF THE SHIRT AROUND MY HEAD, AND WITH MY HAIR HANGING DOWN WRAP THE REMAINDER OF THE SHIRT AROUND INTO A BIG BUN/KNOT, UNTIL IM READY TO DEAL WITH IT.
  10. ROCK IT!! WEAR YOUR GOD GIVEN TEXTURE WITH CONFIDENCE

 YOU’RE WELCOME! 🙂

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