Blaaack Peeoppllle!

Hi there!
Ok, so, I’m getting my cardio in, I’m sweating good, heart rate up, feeling my endorphins flow, when a family member walks by and says to me “gonna have to take more than that!” BRICK MUTHFUCKIN WALL! Lol. WHY ARE WE SO NEGATIVE AND CONDESCENDING TO ONE ANOTHER!?!! I’m not mad at all and I can sometimes be sensitive, but since my birthday I vowed to myself to do what makes ME happy EVERYDAY and not worry about anybody’s opinion. But you never know how words can help or hurt someone. My only issue is i see this a lot in the black household, we tend to discourage more than encourage. We tend to, for lack of better cliches…hate….instead of congratulate! lol, Luckily I’m super happy with my body seeing as tho I had a child not too long ago, I got some places to go and sexy dresses to buy. So yeah im working on me, So then I beg to ask….what is your excuse for a pop belly? oh and not to mention the array of medication that sits beside your bed? See, my motivation is a healthy active LIFESTYLE. I don’t want to be and I will not be a women who has to take a cocktail of man made drugs. Worrying about other people mostly likely got you right where you are! Look, all I’m saying is don’t kill my vibe, I don’t wanna end up looking like…THAT, it’s clear our family has a history, walk on by, I’m not worried about you, enlighten yourself, miss me with it all…sips fresh juice still on my high!







I saw this meme today, and it reminded me of how pagan these holidays truly are! This meme is not completely accurate, however how many Christians actually know they celebrate pagan holidays? What do you think?

Here is a great link to some info on the goddess Ishtar though, she has many good attributes, enjoy.

What is a doula?

What is a doula?.

“There is no Orisha (deity) like Mother, it is mother that is worthy to be praised.”



Annie Lee ‘Spin Cycle’

Top Ten Do’s and Don’ts in no particular order….

1. Unless you’re up and dressed for the day, try not to let your man come home seeing you in the same clothes, especially your night-clothes! I’m not saying beat your face and get fly. But at least put on a fresh shirt (spit-up and cooking stains are not sexy lol). Even if you haven’t had a chance to shower yet, make your stress look sexy. Easy fix…buy cute lounge wear, like comfy dresses, or if you have sweat pants opt for a fitted shirt or tank top. Try Gap Body.

2. Throw on a pair of heels/wedges and style your hair at least once a week when the family goes out. Not only will it be refreshing to your mans eyes, but it’ll help you feel good as well.

3. Cook a meal AT LEAST twice a week. Casserole dishes are simple and delicious if you’re pressed for time or the baby is hanging on your leg. Ex. A can of soup(like cream of mushroom/chicken), rice, chicken, and veggies. Or Veggies (zucchini/tomato/spinach), pasta and cheese. My favorite go to is baked chicken with a side and salad, because its prep and go.

4. Keep your toes right and lips moisturized! Just do it! If you don’t have the money or time to get a pedi do it yourself! 2min pedi!

Annie Lee ‘Full Set or Fill’

5. Make time for yourself. I can not stress this enough. If not a whole day, at least 2 or 3 hrs once or twice a week. How you feel personally is vital when taking care of the family.

6. Nurture your relationship FIRST.  If mommy and daddy are good, baby will inevitably be too. It’s so easy to put the kids first and neglect your partners needs, but trust me, children benefit from the love  and strong bond between their parents.

Annie Lee ‘Love Song’

7. Deep clean the house once a week with your significant other, that way the only thing you’ll have to do  is put baby’s stuff away toward the end of the day. If you have older children 3 and up they should be able to pick up after themselves.

8. If you’re not too tired try waking up at least 1 hour before everyone else. This gives you some uninterrupted “me time” to sip some tea or coffee, sort some laundry, work out and shower.

9. Don’t try and be like the other moms on the block by comparing your day/schedule/routine or lack there of to their’s. Do what works for you and your family.

10. Eat clean to stay energized and keep your body and mind active! If you have things to do around the house, strap that baby on and get to it! Also stimulate your brain with a good book. Reading baby books and watching ‘Yo Gabba Gabba’ can take a toll on you.

Did we leave anything out?? We wanna hear from you!

Annie Lee ‘Steeping and Soaking’

Emancipate Your Mind

Independence day is coming up, but what did you do for Juneteenth??? Remember, it’s up to us teach our children and community about our history. There is so much strength and power in knowing our REAL history. “But what’s a couple weeks?” you ask. Well, it means nearly 89 years between what we celebrate on the 4th of July and the beginning (and only the beginning) of true independence for African Americans. What does July 4th mean to you as an African American? TAKE our POLL!!

And then there’s THIS

When Talking in Front of Your Child Goes Wrong!

Over the weekend we took Vida to the local pool, as many other families did. As I was playing with Vida in the water a little girl approached us, wanting to play with Vida. Of course she was asking lots of questions like “what’s her name?, what’s my name? how old is she?, and could she hold her?”. It was very cute! However it was when she asked where Vida’s daddy was, it became interesting. After I pointed to him on the side of the pool, she began telling me how after she grows up and has her baby that she’s gonna leave the father because she won’t need a man! I then asked her, why she didn’t want a husband for her and her baby, and she didn’t answer.

Now if you don’t see anything wrong with her comments, perhaps your on the wrong website! As a black woman who is pro-family, it truly saddened me to hear a young 8 year old black girl obviously regurgitating what she hears her mother, grandmother, or aunties say. Her statements brought a couple questions to me, such as, why is her mother or whoever having such adult conversations around her? Does she have a father or  male presence around to counter these teachings? When I spoke with my sister about what happened, she told me that a little black boy told her that he was gonna just leave the baby with its mother because he didn’t need to be there. Now I’m not going to assume all black folks are teaching their children these things. They could be learning it from tv, or friend’s family, or their family members… but as adults shouldn’t we be more cognizant of what children hear us discussing?

Too many times I have witnessed friend’s mothers, and even my very own mother (RIP) trash talk their children’s father in front of the children. I am here to tell you ladies and gentlemen just in case you didn’t know, that that shit is NOT ok! Regardless if the other parent is not the best or is the worst person ever, do not discuss the issues you have with them in front of your child or children! If you are a single mother or father, do not allow your child to believe that single parenthood is a normal thing. Yes being a single parent happens in our society due to a ton of reasons, but that is not a burden for our children to bear. We need to teach our children that having a spouse to raise children is very important, and its good for everybody. Why perpetuate that slave mentality!? Yes I said “slave mentality” or like my father says accepting “mediocrity”.

It is up to us as parents to set examples for our children. There is no need to teach them that they will have to endure parenting alone. There are already too many missing fathers out there in our communities, so there is no need to perpetuate that at an early age. Let’s uplift our children, and teach them how to be good to others, show them love, so that they can love others. Give them a chance to not automatically expect that their future relationships will go horribly wrong. I hope that is not too much to ask for?

How LOVE should be…

I saw this in my face book timeline this morning and I figured I would share. How do you view LOVE? Wether its your friend’s, family, boyfriend, husband, wife, or children it’s all about the love we share with them…. Allow your loved ones to be who they are! They will in turn love you for who you are….

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