What is a doula?

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“There is no Orisha (deity) like Mother, it is mother that is worthy to be praised.”



LIQUID GOLD: Reap the Benefits of Your Breastmilk!

Breastmilk is one of Gods greatest gifts. He made us perfectly and with no mistakes! Not only does it provide the perfect nourishment for our babies, but it also has MANY alternative uses that benefit Mommy as well. When it was too early to bath my son, I’d wipe him down with expressed milk every other day, It works better than any over the counter decongestion meds, and I even use it to clean my face!  Take a peek.


For Babies Only

    1. Get Rid of Diaper Rash: Breastmilk can help heal diaper rash, so squirt some on, allow it to dry in the air, and watch the rash disappear.
    2. Prevent Diaper Rash: If your little one is prone to diaper rash, go ahead and put breastmilk on her diaper area daily as a preventative measure.
    3. Clear Up Baby Acne and Eczema: Massage breastmilk onto your baby’s face to clear up baby acne.
    4. Cradle Cap: Conventional mama wisdom says to massage breastmilk onto baby’s scalp to get rid of cradle cap.
    5. Donate It: If you have breastmilk in abundant supply, consider donating your milk, either to a friend or acquaintance or through a milk bank

For Everyone

“Madonna and Child Project ” by Kate Hansen

    1. Pain Relief: The endorphins in breastmilk can actually reduce pain felt by your child, so nurse away anytime your little one gets hurt.2
    2. Ear InfectionsDr. Mercola says that there is a simple solution for childhood ear infections: just “put a few drops of breast milk in the ear canal every few hours. This usually works to clear up the infection within 24-48 hours and is far safer, less expensive and a better solution than putting the child on antibiotics. If the mother is not breastfeeding, it is likely she knows someone who is. All that is required for the treatment is about one half ounce of breast milk . . . .” Mothering suggests following the breastmilk with “warm (not hot) olive oil and garlic, or bottled garlic mullein oil.”
    3. Prevent Childhood Illnesses: Because your baby’s immune system is not mature, theantibodies present in breastmilk can help protect him against a variety of childhood illnesses, including “ear infections, upper and lower respiratory ailments, allergies, intestinal disorders, colds, viruses, staph, strep and e coli infections, diabetes, juvenile rheumatoid arthritis, many childhood cancers, meningitis, pneumonia, urinary tract infections, salmonella, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome(SIDS),” asthma, and more.3
    4. Chicken Pox: Relieve the itch and heal any sores from chicken pox.
    5. Poison Ivy/Oak/Sumac: Try dabbing at the itchy spots with a cotton ball soaked in breastmilk.
    6. Prevent Adult Illnesses: Research has also shown that breastfeeding can help give “lifetime protection from Crohn’s Disease, ulcerative colitis, some lymphomas, insulin dependent diabetes, . . . breast and ovarian cancer[,]” osteoporosis, multiple sclerosis, and others.4
    7. Prevent Illnesses in the Breastfeeding Mother: Breastfeeding reduces the nursing mother’s risk of breast, endometrial, and ovarian cancer, protects mothers against anemia, and can stabilize the progress of endometriosis.5
    8. Cuts and Scrapes: Breastmilk is actually a natural antiseptic, and it can be used to soothe and promote healing of cuts and scrapes.
    9. Insect Bites and Stings: The antiseptic and antibacterial properties of breastmilk can reduce itching and promote healing of insect bites and stings.
    10. Clogged Tear Ducts: Tons of anecdotal evidence (that is, motherly wisdom) has it that breastmilk can help unclog clogged/blocked tear ducts. Science of Mom took a look at some of the studies behind this cure, and found that breastmilk is indeed safe – and potentially healing – for clogged tear ducts.
    11. Conjunctivitis/Stys: While there have been no studies (to my knowledge) that prove whether breastmilk can help get rid of conjunctivitis or stys, many breastfeeding mothers have found it helpful. And from the research on clogged tear ducts, it may follow that breastmilk – especially colostrum – could be beneficial.
    12. Sleep Aid for Baby/ChildNucleotides in breastmilk actually help babies go to sleep.
    13. Tranquilizer for Mom: Hormones released in mamas while breastfeeding decrease blood pressure and act to calm and soothe mothers, helping them sleep.6
    14. Congestion in Infants/Children: Breastmilk’s antimicrobial properties can also help babies and children when you squirt it into little noses.
    15. Neti Pot (Congestion in Older Children/Adults): For congestion in adults, try putting breastmilk in a neti pot to flush your nasal passages. If you don’t have a neti pot, just put a few drops of expressed milk in the nose like you would saline.
    16. Sore Throat: Gargle with breastmilk to help fight off a sore throat.
    17. Cold/Flu: Boost your body’s immune system and stay hydrated with breastmilk.

      “Madonna and Child Project ” by Kate Hansen

    18. Heal Sore NipplesResearch has actually proven that rubbing breastmilk on sore, cracked nipples leads to shorter healing times than using lanolin.
    19. Cure Cancer: Scientists have found that “[a] substance found in breast milk can killcancer cells.” Patients have been drinking breastmilk to treat their cancer with successful results.
    20. Cough in Infants/Children: Little ones with a cough need to stay hydrated – give them fluids and environmental-specific antibodies by nursing or expressing breastmilk.
    21. Birth Control: “Lactational amenorrhea is the natural postnatal infertility that occurs when a woman is amenorrheic and fully breastfeeding.” In other words, exclusive breastfeeding can help with child spacing.7
    22. Fever in Infants/Children: For a child with a fever, you want to keep him hydrated. Let him nurse or drink expressed breastmilk – it will quench thirst and provide antibodies.
    23. Cold Sores and Fever Blisters: Pat a cold sore or fever blister with a cotton ball soaked in breastmilk to help promote healing and relieve pain.
    24. BurnsMothering shares that a burn treated with a mixture of breastmilk and smashed up blueberries will heal more quickly.
    25. Infected Wounds: Apply breastmilk to the infected area to take advantage of its antiseptic properties.
    26. Boost Your Immune SystemAntibodies in breastmilk are environment-specific, so drinking breastmilk from a mother in close proximity can help boost an ill person’s – such as a chemo or organ transplant patient’s – immune system.
    27. Skin Rashes and Contact DermatitisBreastmilk’s antimicrobial and antiseptic properties can be used to help heal and relieve pain and itchiness of rashes and contact dermatitis.
    28. Sunburn: Gently pat expressed breastmilk onto a sunburn to help ease pain and heal the skin.
    29. Wound Cleaning: If you are out and about and someone gets hurt, use breastmilk to clean out the wound if you do not have access to another cleansing agent.
    30. Warts: According to Mothering, put “a breastmilk-saturated cotton ball on the wart for a few minutes twice a day. Continue for several days until the wart dries up.”

Cosmetic and Practical Uses

    1. Clear Up Teen/Adult Acne: Use a mixture of breastmilk and coconut oil on a cotton ball to help clear up acne in teens and adults.8
    2. Contact Lens Solution: Did you get something on your contact, but you don’t have saline solution handy? Clean it with some expressed breastmilk!
    3. Soap: “Milk is touted as an ideal ingredient for skin care products because it contains essential proteins, amino acids, and vitamin A, which nourishes skin. Milk is also rich in lactic acid, which cleanses and softens.” Check out two recipes for breastmilk soap and one Etsy shop that sells breastmilk soap.
    4. Make-up Removal: Use breastmilk on a cotton ball or pad to remove make-up and soften skin.
    5. Red or Puffy Eyes: If you don’t have cucumber slices for your puffy eyes, saturate two cotton balls with cold breastmilk.
    6. Moisten Chapped Lips: If you run out of lip balm and need instant relief, rub some breastmilk on your lips.
    7. Deodorant: One of my readers shares that she uses breastmilk as deodorant. Just rub some milk on your clean underarms and let dry.
    8. Lotion: One resourceful mama has published a recipe for a homemade breastmilk, oats, and honey lotion.

For Consumption

    1. Ice Cream: Many kids say thatbreastmilk tastes like melted ice cream, so making ice cream out of breastmilk only make sense.
    2. Cupcakes: Melodie from Breastfeeding Moms Unite actually made and ate cupcakes made with breastmilk. She kind of rocks.
    3. Popsicles: Either freeze plain old breastmilk into those little plastic popsicle forms, or jazz it up with some green smoothie add-ins. Let teething toddlers have healthy, cold relief.
    4. Mesh Feeder: If you don’t have popsicle molds, you can also freeze breastmilk into ice cube trays, then put some in a mesh feeder for teething toddlers.
    5. Baby Food: If you are making your little one fresh baby food, add some breastmilk to the mix!
    6. CheeseChef Daniel Angerer offers a breastmilk cheese recipe, if you have some milk to spare.
    7. Coffee Creamer: It’s milk. It’s sweet. It’s sweet milk for your coffee!
    8. Butter: I really want to try this easy recipe.
    9. Yogurt: Mmm yogurt! Here’s a recipe for yogurt made from breastmilk.
    10. Sherbet: What a great way to help a little one with a fever or a sore throat – sherbet made from mama milk!
    11. Bread: Create your own breastmilk bread starter with this recipe.
    12. Soup: Mothers can replace cow milk with breastmilk in cream soups. This mama tried it with Cream of Carrot soup and proclaimed it “not bad.”
    13. Anything that Calls for Milk: You can use breastmilk in just about any recipe that calls for milk; this site has recipes for everything from macaroni and cheese to french toast.

For Everything Else

  1. Necklaces: Memorialize your nursing years into a necklace. Here is one where the milk has been made into a plastic-like substance by solidifying the casein contentHollyday Designs makes beautiful necklaces with “milk beads” in different shapes.
  2. Sexual Lubricant: Express breastmilk and use it as you would any lubricant.

Emancipate Your Mind

Independence day is coming up, but what did you do for Juneteenth??? Remember, it’s up to us teach our children and community about our history. There is so much strength and power in knowing our REAL history. “But what’s a couple weeks?” you ask. Well, it means nearly 89 years between what we celebrate on the 4th of July and the beginning (and only the beginning) of true independence for African Americans. What does July 4th mean to you as an African American? TAKE our POLL!!

And then there’s THIS

“Attachment Parenting…a white people thing.”

Today I stumbled across an article on Parent.com of all places, that raised the question of “attachment parenting” being a white/caucasian thing. After reading it, I replied saying that the article was absolutely ABSURD and that the only thing white about attachment parenting, is the men who gave a name to it. See white men like Dr. Sears and John Bowlby, basically put a label (as they like to do with EVERYTHING) on what Africans and any other people of color have been doing since the beginning of time! From “wearing your baby” and “co-sleeping” (again with the labels) to breast feeding, THIS is the norm with most cultures, but has not been accepted or openly tolerated by the western culture until recently. Or is it?

These techniques were and are probably still looked at as things only poor or indigenous people practice, but despite the association, they had the right idea. The TRADITION and ART of “Baby wearing” was a NECESSITY not some type of fad and the use of strollers (which grew popular with the British) was counter productive in more ways than one. Honestly when I went to a group meeting about “wearing” your babies, I felt it a tad odd to see a white woman hosting it. I wasn’t used to seeing white women with their babies tied to them.  However living in San Diego for a year got me used to seeing these granola white women more involved in nurturing their children, it even made me wonder why don’t I see more black women extra involved with nurturing their babies in this way?

I think this whole uproar in breast-feeding/attachment parenting, with high society white women is a shock perhaps only to
white men, and unfortunately some black women. I’m not mad at nor am I putting down white women who adopted these methods, but I am disappointed that this is yet another thing most black women have  abandoned and allowed white men and women to take credit for.
It is my belief that the US as a whole needs to widen it’s perspectives, and black women, we need to realize that this is OUR history. This is what we do! It is NOT a white people thing.  We don’t nurse because celebrities are doing it, we do it because thats what God made breast for and it IS the best way to nurture our babies. Everything else after that is the ALTERNATIVE. You see not too long ago white women who were rich and famous did not raise their own children (a lot of them today still don’t). Hell even if they were moderately well off they had other women, such as black women (nannies) raising their children. “In fact, slave owners used and purchased black women as wet nurses for their own children, often forcing these mothers to stop nursing their own infants to care for others.(www.momlogic.com/)


Why, black women, are we allowing the media to teach us something that is a major part of OUR culture, OUR history? Furthermore, why are we still allowing some white man to TELL us what is right when is comes to child rearing, as if they didn’t first learn from our ancestors? They if anyone are THEE furthest example of a nurturer. Mothers on all levels are constantly trying to figure out the best ways to nurture and care for their children. For the most part all mothers want to make sure our children are well balanced and reach their optimum potential.Why are we thinking that it’s a white thing along with everything else thats good?  The only thing that comes to mind is miseducation, and a heavy reliance on someone elses opinion, that may not have your best interest. Bottomline? OPEN YOUR MIND TO WHATS INNATELY WITHIN YOU!

Alanis Morissette on “Attachment Parenting”

I just watched Alanis Morissette on CNN. I must say I am sick of the “mommy wars” the media loves to create. This shouldn’t be controversial, but I am happy to see public figures supporting natural parenting. Here’s an older video from ABC. She is just glowing!

Check out the video below:


Thank you Amanda for this!

Do you think the media is putting women against each other over the great baby debates? What do you think is the best way to raise a child?

12 hour Diapers?

Pampers baby dry… for how long?

What kind of Diapers should I buy? That has been a question amongst my mommy friends and I. When Vida was a newborn I cloth diapered her, until she was around four months old. So when she out grew her cloth diapers, I went to Target to purchase disposable diapers. It took me literally thirty minutes to figure out which diapers to purchase! I was very confused, Hell I felt like was looking at a Apple Bee’s menu, you know there’s a lot on the menu, yet there is really nothing you want to order? One brand had plenty of diapers, but not the right size, then another was more “pure & natural” but Not enough diapers… ughhh I was completely annoyed.

While deciding on a pamper choice, I noticed some were labeled “12 hours dry”… which got me thinking who actually lets their baby sit in a wet diaper that long?? Ok I notice the bunny is asleep, so are these only for sleeping? So should I look for day time diapers? This has got to be the gimmick to get parents to buy them, because surely they wouldn’t let a diaper get THAT full…………would they??

Now if you have used cloth diapers you know you change you baby every one to two hours, just depends on how quick your baby wets their diaper. But with these disposable diapers there is this magic gel and fibers in them that supposedly keep the baby dry for twelve hours and just in case the squishy gel stuff  or the smell of urine doesn’t give away  whether your child is wet or not some have a fancy blue line that indicates wetness! How wonderful right?

Not so much… you see I still change my daughter every one to two hours. And if I wait for  two hours her diaper is wet enough generally that her butt is damp. And that doesn’t mean her diaper was even full of urine just enough. So instead of gaging wether or not to change her diaper from the 12 hours shown on the box, I figure I wouldn’t want to wear a mildly to wet soppy diaper for past 1- 2 hours, why would Vida want to? I refuse to have anyone have to tell me to change her diaper except my husband, Auntie, or her Nana. And you mothers and fathers should feel the same way. As I sit here typing this, I recall seeing other people’s babies,kids running around,lounging, and on social networking sites with a pissy diaper on, and I always think “CHANGE YA BABY’S DIAPER!”… Uggghhh

The argument could be that diapers are expensive, this is true, we all want to get the most use out of one. Good point. But that  reason is not valid when it comes to your babies comfort and moreover the health of their skin. If this is your situation just use cloth diapers! They are easy to use, and even easier on our planet. If you don’t know how, or never even heard of them Conscious Daughters is here to educate you. A GIFT TO YOU I absolutely loved the newborn kit, plus it was extremely cute to see Vida wiggle in those diapers.

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