Blaaack Peeoppllle!

Hi there!
Ok, so, I’m getting my cardio in, I’m sweating good, heart rate up, feeling my endorphins flow, when a family member walks by and says to me “gonna have to take more than that!” BRICK MUTHFUCKIN WALL! Lol. WHY ARE WE SO NEGATIVE AND CONDESCENDING TO ONE ANOTHER!?!! I’m not mad at all and I can sometimes be sensitive, but since my birthday I vowed to myself to do what makes ME happy EVERYDAY and not worry about anybody’s opinion. But you never know how words can help or hurt someone. My only issue is i see this a lot in the black household, we tend to discourage more than encourage. We tend to, for lack of better cliches…hate….instead of congratulate! lol, Luckily I’m super happy with my body seeing as tho I had a child not too long ago, I got some places to go and sexy dresses to buy. So yeah im working on me, So then I beg to ask….what is your excuse for a pop belly? oh and not to mention the array of medication that sits beside your bed? See, my motivation is a healthy active LIFESTYLE. I don’t want to be and I will not be a women who has to take a cocktail of man made drugs. Worrying about other people mostly likely got you right where you are! Look, all I’m saying is don’t kill my vibe, I don’t wanna end up looking like…THAT, it’s clear our family has a history, walk on by, I’m not worried about you, enlighten yourself, miss me with it all…sips fresh juice still on my high!





Alanis Morissette on “Attachment Parenting”

I just watched Alanis Morissette on CNN. I must say I am sick of the “mommy wars” the media loves to create. This shouldn’t be controversial, but I am happy to see public figures supporting natural parenting. Here’s an older video from ABC. She is just glowing!

Check out the video below:″>

Thank you Amanda for this!

Do you think the media is putting women against each other over the great baby debates? What do you think is the best way to raise a child?

Don’t you agree?

Don’t you agree?

Mother, Father, Child…

Mother, Father, Child...

It’s ALL about the family… let’s keep our families intact.,,15762835,00.html


Daughters…What you SEE, is What YOU get

How does your daughter see you?

Whether you are a mother or a father you will one day become concerned with how your daughter sees you…hopefully. Nas had a rude awakening when he saw his daughter Destiny’s instagram photo of a bowl of condoms. And it led him to do a song titled “Daughters”, and a fabulously done video in the perspective of Destiny and how she saw her father Nas as she grew up.

As a daughter, who was raised by her father, this completely hit home for me! Although my father was not a huge rap icon,  I too recall, being with my daddy while he’s flirting with women, talking smack with his friends. My father always made it a point for me to go with him, so that I can see him handling business matters. Overall my father has shown me a lot, and has given me many different perspectives on life. One of the biggest lessons I have learned from my father is unconditional love. If you have a loving father you come to realize that they are NOT super man, they are human and have made mistakes just like you. Which in turn has greatly shaped my outlook on life in general, and it has helped me become the woman I am today.

Which brings me to this…. As a mother or Father what do you want your daughter to see you as? When they grow up will they known, and seen a mother/father who showed them love, tenderness, and understanding? Or will they have seen you as being selfish, and never emotionally invested in them. This I feel is a great discussion to be had, because too many times negative cycles continue in our families, because no one wants to except that their child/children are really watching and paying attention to your actions and behaviors good or bad. And like it or not, your children are a reflection of YOU!


Basketball Ball CHICKS / Love? and Hip Hop??…

First of all, If this is love OR hip hop I don’t want it! It’s one thing for these women to make themselves look foolish, but like it or not, these are the images of black women the WORLD is seeing! And what a humiliating perception it is! There are so many other ways to make money while setting an example for black women. I think it goes to show just how far we’ve left the whole notion of “raising the village” behind. We are supposed to be accountable for each other, especially our children. The woman IS the heart of the black community, but no longer are we setting the standard for one another, and furthermore our men. Even if it’s NOT their intention, they ARE role models! These women need to take responsibility for their actions because young people are watching and admiring them and some may not know better. Honestly, I’d really like to hear a male perspective on this topic, because I definitely don’t want my son with someone so inundated with so much drama and pettiness.
The bottom line is that perception goes beyond just being reality television. And furthermore this is not my reality in the least bit…well maybe in high school, but not as a grown woman! Ladies we have to wake up and stop being distracted by this mess. We need to be more concerned with what is in our foods, what’s going on in the news, your child’s school work, and what the hell is really going on in your very own home. If this is supposed to be the age of technology/information, why does it seem like the media is dumbing us down?

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